Saturday, November 29, 2008

40 Things Every Woman Must Know About Men, Love, Sex and Relationships

40 Things Every Woman Must Know About Men, Love, Sex and Relationships
By Gillis Triplett

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Most women learn about men, love, sex and relationships the hard way. They walk down the highly traveled, worn out path of emotional scars, broken hearts, abuse, confusion, anger and sleepless nights. When it comes to learning the hard way, you can get to know a great deal about men, love, sex and relationships, but most women who have traveled that path will tell you, “The price is too high and the consequences and lingering effects are way to painful!” Smart women understand this irrefutable truth.

They know there is an easier less complicated way to obtain the vital information they need to know about the opposite sex. Ladies, these 40 nuggets of wisdom and sage advice will help set you on the right path to finding and experiencing true love. Share these life-saving truths with every woman you know. They will forever thank you!

1. There are two types of males: Dishonorable males and honorable men. Don’t date or marry until you know how to tell the difference between the two! The woman in the mirror will graciously thank you.


2. Honorable men are protectors. They will guard your heart, protect your emotions, defend your honor and stand as champions for your spiritual, mental and physical well-being; choose an honorable man and choose life!

3. You are not a car; if you meet a man who wants to test drive your physical body, emotions and feelings, point him to a car dealership, bid him adieu and don’t look back!

4. This is a true saying: “The soul of a woman is fragile.” Please note: dishonorable males refuse to respect this crucial truth. They will toy with a woman’s emotions without any semblance of concern or compassion. Therefore YOU must guard your heart from these cold-hearted males with all diligence.

5. Good men need to be treated like good men, dishonorable males, need to be let go and left alone!

6. OK ladies; you’ve met this great guy, but he’s got a child or children for which he does not take care of, provide for or see to. Follow these instructions to the letter: urgently send him back to the mother(s) of his child(ren) and don’t look back. Don’t make the same mistake the mother(s) of his child(ren) did!

7. Dishonorable males treat sex as a sport, females as trophies and children they sire as wastepaper. Never allow yourself to become their next score, mantle piece or sperm repository.

8. Women who hold grudges, seek vengeance, cling to bitterness and are unwilling to forgive, unwittingly break their own hearts!

9. Choose the wrong mate and you might as well have laid next to a boa constrictor or grabbed the ears of a raging mad pit bull. A smart woman learns how to choose her mate wisely!

10. Heed the sage advice of some caring brothers and honorable men. If he doesn’t fit - don’t force him, just relax and let him go. Destiny is on your side… TRUE LOVE will find you!

11. Momma’s boys belong with only one type of woman; their moms! Ladies, these mothers and their sons will never cut their grotesque umbilical cord. Therefore, for your sake, leave them alone and just let them trot home to their mommies.

12. Self-love: if you don’t have it, pull yourself off the market. Make no mistake about it, if you don’t love yourself, NO MAN can ever love you… no matter how great a man he is.

13. Don’t judge ALL men by one man’s actions; unless you want ALL men to judge you based on the acts of amoral women.

14. Most women learn how to choose a mate the hard way; they go through a gut wrenching string of emotionally detached males, jerks, pimps, thugs and players. Don’t become one of those heart broken and bitter women! Learn how to properly choose a mate before it’s too late! The woman in the mirror will graciously thank you.

15. You wondering, “If I move in with him, is he going to marry me?” Answer: “Not likely!” Don’t believe it, take these two critical tests: (a). Ask any honorable man! And, (b). Examine the ever-growing list of disillusioned women who are begrudgingly waiting for their non-committal live-in lovers to pop the big question.

16. Do you keep attracting men who are dogs? Check the scent you’re putting out. Men who are dogs are attracted by scent!

17. You are not a man! Therefore, you will never be: a role model for men, a father figure, a man’s mentor or a man’s coach. If a man has lacked proper male leadership in his life, kindly send him on his way. Know for a certainty; he is not prepared for the responsibilities that come with love, sex, relationship and marriage.

18. If you don’t know what a misogynistic man is, take this time to check your dictionary. For your sake, sanity and safety, avoid these treacherous males at all costs.

19. Don’t ever delude yourself! Your beauty, fine body, sexual prowess, cooking skills, femininity and vibrant personality will never be enough to change a man, NEVER!

20. If your potential mate does such things as: promises to call you but doesn’t, makes dates and breaks them, shows up late or plays games with your emotions; take notes ladies... those are clear cut warning signs that he DOES NOT value you, he DOES NOT love you and he DOES NOT care about you!

21. Angry, bitter, hostile, combative, unforgiving single women, become: angry, bitter, hostile and combative, unforgiving wives.

22. A fundamental understanding and respect of the male ego is a must for all women who want a vibrant and healthy love; DO NOT obtain this crucial information from dishonorable males or from angry bitter women.

23. If you choose to be with dishonorable males, pimps, players, thugs, ballers and shot callers, you have absolutely no right to complain when they torch your emotions, abuse you, leave you pregnant and alone, jeopardize your safety and otherwise harm or hurt you. Remember, you have freedom of choice and you chose to be with them!

24. When a man is trying to find himself, kindly bid him adieu… PERMANENTLY! He can find you, but can’t find himself? He shouldn’t be looking for love… he should be searching for the map to Mastering Manhood!

25. OK; he wants or is demanding sex but you are not his wife. Write this down: There is no need to wonder, debate or contemplate: he DOES NOT honor or respect you!

26. Spoiled women are like spoiled milk, spoiled meat, spoiled fruit spoiled bread and spoiled brats. Get the picture? Don’t become a spoiled woman!

27. Expecting a dishonorable male to do the honorable thing is like expecting piranhas not to devour you if you make the mistake of diving into their water.

28. You’ve asked these questions, “Why doesn’t he call me more often? Why doesn’t he pursue me more diligently and why doesn’t he show me that he loves me?” Answer; he’s not into you! If you don’t let him go and move on with your life, you will allow him to hinder or block your true love from finding you!

29. All men ARE NOT dogs! Don’t believe, repeat or perpetuate that rampant lie! You will hamper your ability to see and discern the good men who cross your path!

30. Some males like to hit women. It gives them a sense of power and control. If you give yourself to one of these abusive males, most assuredly you will become a punching bag and a floor mat. It is critical that you learn how to detect and avoid these cretins!

31. Promiscuous immoral women are not worthy of an honorable man. They never have been and they never will be.

32. Never allow emotionally embittered women to influence you concerning the male gender. If you do, their hatred and unforgiveness will become yours. Soon you will find yourself suspicious, indignant and angry at all men.

33. You were not designed, built or destined for abuse, whether: emotionally, physically or financially. If he is an abuser, there is no need to deliberate… he IS NOT the one; leave him now!

34. Some women live their lives vicariously through the women on “Girlfriends, Sex In The City and Desperate Housewives.” Don’t become one of these women. If you do, you will make a literal mess of your life, emotions, physical body and well-being.

35. When a man truly loves you, he will honor and respect you. If he doesn't… don’t deceive yourself and don’t allow him to defraud you; he DOES NOT love OR care about you!

36. Everyone has skeletons in their closet? Wrong! Not everyone has skeletons in their closet. Don’t start putting any in yours!

37. There is a vast difference between sex and love. Most men know the difference and you had better learn it fast! If you fail or refuse to do so, you are surely headed for relationship or marital crash and burn.

38. Don’t deceive yourself, once you have sex with a man who is not your husband… he may never admit it, but he has lost a degree of respect for you. Don’t believe it? Ask any honorable man or virtuous woman.

39. The dismal cycle of breaking up and making up only works out in the romance novels, television shows and movies. If you are riding that emotional roller coaster get off right now! Your heart, mind and soul will forever thank you.

40. Nothing is more beautiful, captivating, attractive and sensual than a woman with a gentle and peaceable spirit!

Monday, November 17, 2008

Life goes on..

One of the things that I have been terrible at is keeping in touch with old friends, old classmates, etc..

It is seriously my loss.. I have been looking for one friend who was like my best friend.. She was going through some things, I moved to another state, changed my phone number.. etc.. Anyway every time I go home I look for her. I call random people with her same name every few months hoping to find her. I have a plethora of skip tracing resources at my fingertips. One day soon I will look into it..

However, in the spirit of renewed friendships I contacted someone I haven't talk to in a little under a year. Last time I talked to her, I was helping her move out from her boyfriend who really wasn't acting right.. Well, I just talked to her and in 8 short months, she has bought a house(which of course I knew about, she used me). Rekindled with her ex boyfriend (who has sense got his act together), got married and is now pregnant. I am extremely happy for her...

Now as I look back over the last 8 months of my life, I almost lost my mom, my step dad went from vibrant and alive to mental unaware of anything and living in a nursing home, broke my arm-and it is still slowly healing, broke up with the person that I knew was my husband and my business has slowed to a snail pace as I spent 6 of the last 7 months with my parents. Oh and I turned 30.

So, I have allowed my self moments of being stuck in all that has happened to me. However, life goes on.. For all the not so great things that have stopped me in my tracks and made wake up and look at life differently.. For someone else like my friend, these last 8 months have been the happiest of her life. On the other side of that coin. Their is someone else whose last 8 months have been worse than mine..

It really is a wake up for me.. It is time to get moving.. I am extremely happy for my friend and I will celebrate with her shortly.. However, I still have to be honest and say.. That I wish it was me.. The marriage part, the family. etc.. Overall, Just the experience of it being the best time of my life....

Friday, November 14, 2008

Day 1

I am a member of a very popular forum. There are often all these challenges that run the gamut from fitness to hair. So, I know my life is at a stand still, it has even slide back a little.. I feel like I am covered up, hidden basically in a cocoon and I am just dying to emerge as the strong, beautiful, self assured woman that I know I already am.. Like a Butterfly.. So, no challenge for me.. This will chronicle my journey....

I am going to start with my list of 101 things to complete in 1001 days and go from there...

Purple-Completed
Blue-Working On

Make List Feb 1, 2008-October 29, 2010
Financial
Find 3 alternate streams of income (3/3)
Redo Taxes 2005
Redo Taxes 2004
Redo 2007 Taxes
Double my yearly income
Pay off car loan
Pay off all debt as of 2008 except student loans and Home
Fund IRA for a year
Save an add'l 10K and put in to one account that is not to be touched
Make a list of all debts and set repayment goals
Enter finances in Mint.com
Career
Work on investment club Manuscript
Complete Agent Website
Complete Loan Mod Website

Join Toastmasters
Blog once a week for 6 months
Complete Business plan for Non Profit
Start Speed Dating
Join Womens Organization
Find A Mentor / Coach
Finish list of all contacts
Set contacts on a monthly contact plan
Make real estate marketing plan

Health
Lose 20lbs
Lose 20lbs (40 total)
Lose 20lbs (60 total)
Lose 20lbs (80 total)
Work out 3 times a week for 4 weeks consectively
Work out 4 times a week for 4 weeks consectively
Work out 5 times a week for 4 weeks consectiviely
Complete couch to 5k program
Complete a 5K
Complete a 10K
Eat 2 piece of fruit a day for 30 days consectively
Stop drinking sodas for 30 days
Stop drinking sodas for 60 days
Cook 1 new thing 1 a month for 12 months (1/12)
Hike up a large mountain
Drink at least 100 oz of water for 30 days
Take a Pilates class or Complete a whole video
Take a Yoga Class or Complete a whole video
Prepare 3 lunch meals at home a week for 2 months
No Fast Food For 30 days nothing with a drive thru
Eat Breakfast everyday for 2 weeks

Personal
Plan something for 30th b-day
Apply to School

Start school
Finish undergrad
Make Scrapbook
Put all photos in album
Learn Spanish
Get Relaxer
Watch all of the movies on the 100 best black movies
Get oil change
Clean out closet and all clothes in storage, Donate to Goodwill or Dress for Success
Get rid of shoes that I know I am not going to wear.. I guess they can be donated (eww)
Wear a pair of heels I never wear once a month within season of course
Get Highlights
Put all paper online and on memory stick
Get Blinker fixed
- 2 times.. why does no one know what is wrong with my blinker.
Go One Day without Television
Clear Clutter from Bathroom
Clear Clutter from Storage Unit
Clear Clutter From Office
Go One Day with out Internet
Kiss in the Rain
Volunteer for a Presidential Campaign
Take Professional Boudoir Photos
Find a Signature Perfume

Reading
Read the Bible
Read Eckhart Tolle's Power of Now
Read Eckhart Tolle's A new Earth
Read Dale Carnegies “ How to win friends and Influence with people
Read Think and Grow Rich again and pay attention
ReRead The Emyth Revisited
Listen To Louise Hay “ You Can Heal; Your Life”

Family/Friends
Plan Spa day for me and my mom
Contact a family member once a month
Look up old friends and contact one a month
Buy Kiana a Savings Bond every year for her birthday (2/18)
Throw Mom a Surprise 50th Birthday Party
Meet Dad's Side of the Family
Email Brother in Iraq once a week(1/52)

Travel
Visit Washington DC
Take 1 trip out of country
Plan 1 more trip out of country
Go to Disneyworld
Go on another cruise
Take my mom on a trip(Just her and I)
Have a Girls Weekend out in another City
Go on a Family Vacation

Purchases
Buy a new laptop
Buy a new bedroom set
Buy a new comforter set
Buy new Rims
Buy a House that I like
Buy New Living Room Set
Buy a New SmartPhone
Buy New Tires
Buy New Digital Camera